Girl, Wash Your Face!
I recently finished Rachel Hollis' book, Girl, Wash Your Face, in which she courageously exposes all the self-limiting beliefs she has moved through in her life to achieve her current level of happiness and success as a mother and entrepreneur. Her main message was of self-responsibility and the recognition that we are each personally responsible for how happy we feel. We make choices that determine who we are now and who we are becoming. We can stop blaming others for our unhappiness/dissatisfaction and stop looking externally for something or someone to come magically "fix" our life.
Sometimes life feels so hard and chaotic but rather than drowning in the uncertainty and chaos, we can choose to embrace it. We can focus on the next step we need to take; and with one foot in front of the next, these small changes will add up over time.
She also reminds us that it doesn't matter what others think of us. That's their problem. We only need to focus on doing our best and living in a way that is meaningful to our values. And, I'd like to add that it's important we show ourselves some self compassion. We all make mistakes. We won't get it all perfect. Life is messy. We must do our best and be our own best friend no matter what.